I have to tell you straight up that this will be my last post here. Gosh, it is for so many reasons…and I will be continuing to write but it will be elsewhere, my love.
You will have noticed my absence. A very shocking and rather painful personal issue reared its head some months ago halting my ability to put my words out there…but it did not stop my ability to shine in the world!
In fact, in only helped me to shine brighter.
So this my friends is my final piece here, bringing together everything I know on heart-centred goal-kicking with sass all whilst giving an ode to my year. Sound cool? Read on.
I have learnt that sometimes letting things go, no matter how painful the process may be, can quite often be the best thing for you. For with every void that opens up in your life, something beautiful will fill it – allowing the universe to do this is the key.
Accepting that bad shit will happen, you will lose things, lose people, and get rejected, is absolutely the key to allowing the universe to do it’s thing! Those voids will fill up with amazing, beautiful things much quicker than the perceived awful things happened. I use the word ‘perceived’ because it is all about perception.
And it is all about being grateful. Turning your mindset around to being grateful for everything you have in that moment is essential for allowing the universe to fill those voids. I am so utterly grateful for EVERYTHING that I have, everything that I have achieved, everyone in my life. I am grateful for the universe filling every void. And so it goes on, it just flows…the ebb and flow of life happens.
Letting go allowed me to kick some serious butt this year.
It also allowed me to receive some seriously great karma in return. I have met some absolutely beautiful people who will be in my life forever, I have strengthened relationships that I only ever dreamed of having and I have had soulful experiences and made memories I’ll cherish forever.
This was the year that soul-sisters were born and united. I just can not wait to see what tomorrow holds because these chikkas I have met are like-minded, sassy, hot and ready to trot and inspiration levels are at an all time high. This was also the year that I strengthened the relationships with the babes already in my life, repaired ties with ones lost and even did a friend detox. The raw and real beauty that surrounds me now is incredible and I encourage everyone to do the same.
The Love in my life is real.
Gosh, I feel ever so lucky and so grateful to be able to say that. This year, my Love and I went from being lovers to being in love. There is a real distinction there. And I believe it is all due to the work I did on myself, truly letting go and truly coming right out of myself and believing that I could be loved for who I am.
I dropped the worrying about my looks crap, I dropped the drinking to excess, I started exercising when I wanted to, I started eating to nourish. And it was all for me, not for him. And he adores me for it.
This year we spend three and a half weeks travelling Greece, resting and relaxing and sight seeing and learning together. It was quite possibly the most amazing holiday of my life. And when we came home we began looking for a home to buy together. I had 6 goals this year (I’ll chat about those soon) and one of which was to buy a home. And right on the end of this year we did it! We move in a couple of weeks! Excited much.
Yes, I kicked all six of my goals I set for myself this year.
Crazy cool, huh! Goal-kicking went into overdrive, and this year I was inspired, driven, focused but most of all BRAVE. Everything I wanted to achieve was extremely scary but pushing through that fear was the ultimate in helping reveal more of who I really am.
It has shaped who I am today. I am braver than I thought I was, smarter than I thought I was, and so much more wiser.
So without further ado, here are the six goals I set for myself at the beginning of 2014, along with a statement I had written alongside them:
1. Be driving again
2. Be glowing, and naturally fit
3. Have started my coaching business, I will be seeing clients and nurturing them towards a life of health and wellness.
4. Have a Facebook Page for my business.
5. Be earning extra income from my business, so I can keep building a super successful business.
6. Buy a new home
“I am a no bullshit Health and Wellness ambassador, and a Coach that oozes Health alongside beauty and sensuality, who totally nourishes my body and mind and the bodies and minds of others on a daily basis”
I worked darned hard to achieve all that. I am so proud of myself.
So, how did I do it? And how can you do it in 2015?
As I mentioned earlier, letting go of the bad shit to let the good into your life is the first and most important thing in order to achieve anything you want. Holding onto crap doesn’t achieve anything, it just bogs you down. For example: worrying over the idiot who posted a rude comment on your blog is not going to get you anywhere, is it? It just winds you up, holds you back, stifles your writing and stops you from putting the great stuff out there and inspiring and touching the lives of others.
I also talked about the importance of being grateful. Shifting your mindset to waking every morning and going to sleep every night being thankful for the things in your life that make you happy, rather than complaining, is one of the biggest helpers in heart-centred goal kicking. You’ll find yourself waking up with a spring in your step, noticing the little things, having more time in your day to achieve things.
Self-care is really crucial. Taking the time to notice when you need a break and not push through when you are utterly exhausted. Sleeping when you need it (even if it’s only 7pm), having a bath, going for a walk, exercising for you not the thigh gap, eating yummy veggies. Your head will be clear, you’ll be focused. You’ll make your way through your goals and kick ass like you’ve never kicked it before!
Time alone. Don’t be afraid you’re missing out on anything by refusing the Friday night work drinks to stay in and watch mindless TV. Or don’t worry about going for a drive with the music blaring for an hour on your own while your partner is at home. Setting time aside to be alone is critical to our self development and it is often where we have the biggest ‘a-ha’ moments. You will not regret your time alone, in fact you’ll start craving it!
And finally: believe in yourself. Be brave and push through the fear. Because if there is anything worse than failing it’s the regret that you didn’t even try.